So once we both get home from the beach, this same guy texts me. He says, "Hey, how did you get out of telling us who you like at the beach?" He bugged my sister, who's texting her crush I told you about a few texts ago, and she bugged him, and I sat there like, sighhh. god. I ultimately explain to him,
- ok so brace yourself for awkwardness. And possibly a multipage text lol. Ready?
So remember how I said dating is for marriage? Well I didn’t mean it but kinda did. I know this is unreasonable cause im so young but id only get into a serious relationship with someone id consider marrying. There aren’t many people out there who are deserving of that currently. So heres where the definition of “like” gets fuzzy. For example, you, I know so well id be ok if you were the last man on earth and I had to marry you, however I don’t have a “crush” on you. *$%(&^ on the other hand I may crush on, but he doesn’t quite fit my bill. Make sense kinda? ;/
He's like, yeah, I guess. Then I ask him about his girl, Rebecca. He says it's not going to work with her. So I say, "well, I'll just say what you always tell me, the right one is out there somewhere." And he said, "and she might be right in front of me." so i pester him about what he means. I'm actually being quite dumb. He says it's not going to work with her, because she's said she doesn't like him... Here, have the text conversation.
-yep. And btw she doesn’t like me anyway.
- aw. So negative.
- she told me
-oh. That’s rough, im sorry. She wasn’t mean about it was she?
- nope she didn’t even know what she was saying indirectly
- so you didn’t tell her? Maybe you should to clarify things. Its quite possible she didn’t realize, especially if shes as dumb as me lol.
- you know i'm not going to tell you until i tell her.
- buttt you never know. She might change her mind if shes smart :D
- I don’t think she will she’s pretty set in her ways.
- why don’t you tell her how YOU feel. Maybe that’ll loosen her up, huh? people changeeee.
- would u?
- you mean will I change? I hope so!
- would you change? Not will, would.
- of course I would.
- if someone told u they liked you, you would change?
- I would try my best!
- well you’re one in a million then.
- so there are seven thousand exactly like me? xp
- that's not what i meant, but nice math.
- i know what you meant. and thanks :] i think you're one in a million tooooo
- seven thousand just like me?
- give or take.
Then I had to run some errands. Great timing right.
Me – ok so I was driving home and started thinking, maybe this, we should wait until after high school. What do you think?
Him – I was thinking that too... you guessed?
- nah, I just... this might sound corny, but hs dating is just practice and I think maybe we might be more serious than that. And the type of dating we see is like... insulting to that. Wdyt?
- =) didn’t I say hs was practice and you yelled at me?
- yeahhhhhhh that’s why I think we should wait.
- I can wait.... can you?
- ive waited for what feels like forever. Want to know why I really turned you down freshman year? This is why.
- to wait for college?
-sort of. Dating at 14 and 15 is kind of a joke too lol. Holding hands all the time and kissing in front of other people just because they can. If you really love somebody, I think its different. You know?
- yeah ik what youre saying. Haha. Don’t wanna be like luke and jasmine
- exactly. I don’t doubt that they are enamored with each other but... its just not classy.
- haha yea
- so what were your reasons? The same? Lol
- and your dad likes me and I don’t want him to hate me for taking his princess =) and yeah the same and weve been friends through hs and it would shock everyone haha!
-hahaha you’ve got that right. Yeah lets not tell our parents. Your mom and my dad might have mini bitchfits.
- now what I wanna know is how you guessed.
- how I guessed what?
- that I was talking about you.
- want to feel like a Disney movie? because my heart told meeee:) and, you were being a little too elusive.
- so if im elusive, its you? =)
- not necessarily. Xp. But that makes me wonder, what about Rebecca? Or kelsey? This can be like, open if you want. Don’t feel restricted now.
- Rebecca is a lost cause. So is kelsey.
- are you sure? I don’t want you to feel like, sworn to... idk chastity from gfs.
- haha don’t worry im not getting any more till college =)
- heehee! but seriously. Im thinking this is like a fair game thing.
Lalala we establish it as open season. And I said deciding where to go to college is much easier and much less scary now. Look at how much I poked and prodded at him, hahaha! I totally knew right when he started putting smiley faces in when I asked who she is and that he said she didn’t like him back. (it was a lie on my part.) Hmmm. I can read you like a book sir.
And that’s that. We’re not telling anyone... and we’re waiting until the end of senior year. To think that this morning, I almost cried because I thought I fucked everything up. Ha.
I kind of can’t wait for college now.
The funny thing is, I’m not as excited as I thought. But this might be because he’s already like, married to me in my head. That sounds really stupid, but honestly. I could marry him and have minimal qualms. Fo shizzle. Is that weird? I already feel like we are married and I’m stuck in the past when my future self is laughing at me for having been so shy about this. And making all the wrong moves. It’s like my future self is looking back, watching me, coaxing me on, and trying not to laugh at me as I stumble through all of my first times. But at the same time, letting me know I’m on the right track and things are falling into place.
2 comments:
I applaud you; this is indeed squeeworthy. Reminds me how much I missed rangirling over my dotcomrade's posts. I think of you as the one writing buddy that I have left.
By the way, I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. I don't don't see any reason in dating someone that you don't intend to marry; reminds me of my stalker's "dating contract" proposal. Most often dating is a means to an end.
In my bible study, we are going over the reality that you can't date someone if you don't already know yourself. Otherwise, it is like two people trying to get somewhere, each trying to support each other standing on one foot. It simply doesn't work.
Putting thought into these questions was so helpful to me.
1. Who is the most important person in your life, and why?
2. What is the one dream for your life you most look forward to achieving?
3. Who has the capacity to make you angrier than anyone else in your life, and what in particular does he or she do to make you angry?
4. Who has the capacity to make you feel loved more than anyone else in your life, and what in particular does he or she do to make you feel so loveable?
5. What is it like being you? More precisely, how do you feel about yourself---physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually?
6. When do you feel inspired? Who and what contribute to your sense of inspiration? How does it feel when you are inspired?
7. What is the most important thing in the world to you?
8. If you had one day to live, how would you want to spend it?
9. When do you feel most afraid?
10. If you could accomplish only one thing during the rest of your life, what would it be?
11. What bores you? What always bores you, and what never bores you?
12. How important is money to you? How much time do you spend thinking about it, and what income level do you aspire to?
13. What is the role of God in your life? Do you believe there is a God, and if so, what is God like in relation to you?
14. In order, what are your three strongest interests?
15. Who is your biggest enemy, and precisely how and why did this person become your enemy?
16. How important is food to you? Do you think of it very often, and do you feel disciplined in your management of food intake?
17. Does the idea of being married to the same person for the rest of your life sound appealing to you---or not so appealing? What is there about it that you would especially like or not like?
18. Do you think of yourself as an emotionally healthy person? In what ways are you especially healthy, and in what ways could you use some improvement?
19. What is the role of conflict in your life? Do you argue or fight very much with the people closest to you? How does it usually turn out for you?
20. What specifically would you like your closest friends to say about you at your funeral?
Aw thanks a lot for the comment. Those questions are great and remind me of my theology class. I'll be meditating on them :)
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